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In Memory of

Thomas Joseph Whitehair

July 15, 1956 - May 1, 2017

Obituary


Our Beloved brother, Thomas Joseph Whitehair, went home to be with the Lord on May 1, 2017. Born in July 1956, he was 60. He died suddenly at home while under the trees he loved and cared for at our parents homestead, which he lovingly took care of all the years of his life. He was a rancher, a good son, a wonderful brother, friend to many and loved by many, a nurturing gardener who took care of over 30 trees and 20 rose bushes and who could grow the largest pumpkins which he shared...

Our Beloved brother, Thomas Joseph Whitehair, went home to be with the Lord on May 1, 2017. Born in July 1956, he was 60. He died suddenly at home while under the trees he loved and cared for at our parents homestead, which he lovingly took care of all the years of his life. He was a rancher, a good son, a wonderful brother, friend to many and loved by many, a nurturing gardener who took care of over 30 trees and 20 rose bushes and who could grow the largest pumpkins which he shared with the whole neighborhood, a wonderful caretaker of our five kitties, faithful to Jesus, and a kind and quiet soul. When asked what they remember most about him most would say he was quiet but loved a good story, had a strong handshake he was proud of, he had a good sense of humor, and always wore his fatigue green or tan sun hats, Hawaiian shirts or his favorite striped shirts. He left our life suddenly but with great love. He loved going to Disneyland and the beach. He loved going to church or Bible study at Calvary Chapel Chino Valley and Chino Hills. He had a wonderful medical team at the Veterans hospital in Long Beach and had joined their gardening group. He had many friends that he spent time with and never realized how many people loved being around him. As we told friends and old neighbors about his passing, it is amazing how many lives he touched, something he never realized but would have made him so happy. He was loved, and though he is safe and happy now in Heaven with his much-missed mom, he will be missed by those of us here without him but he will live on in our hearts and memories. He lived at home with his sister who helped take care of him but he always was watching over her too. Some of our happiest memories of him recently is him sitting in the living room, watching a movie and laughing, and riding the carousel with friends at Disneyland. He also loved walking in the hills near the house.
He was born in Pomona and lived in Chino most of his life. He lived on a chicken ranch with his parents and five siblings until the 60 freeway came through the neighborhood so the family moved to a smaller farm also in Chino. He went to school at St Margarets and Chino High School and graduated midyear to join the Army. He was stationed at both Fort Bragg and Fort Ord and went to Germany to take part in the Reforger Exercise. He obtained the rank of Specialist Fourth Class and earned the National Defense and Good Conduct medals. He was awarded the Sharpshooter badge and participated in several runs while in the service and had been recently training to do a local Disneyland race.
When he returned home, he attended some college at Chaffey college and helped take care of the farm and our parents. He also worked several jobs, including as a gardener and a machinist. Our parents always said they would not have been able to live in their home forever if Tom had not been there helping them.
He was preceded in death by his beloved mother, Florence Whitehair, and his father, Earl Whitehair and a sister who died prematurely before he was born. He is survived by his siblings, Robert Whitehair and wife Teri, Barbara Whitehair, John Whitehair, Susan Whitehair Lingenfelder and husband Mark, and Maggie Whitehair.
A celebration of life will be held at Draper Mortuary on Monday, May 22, 2017 and burial with military honors will be immediately after at Bellevue Memorial Park. Our brother is at peace and happy now with his Lord so please wear bright or white colors to celebrate his going home.